Earth is a free will planet filled with opportunities for incredible spiritual evolution and soul growth. One of the most important purposes of our lives on Earth can actually be viewed as a journey in reverse, for the purpose of every soul incarnating is to use love as the navigator to discover its way back to the beginning, where we were created from and by love. A good question to periodically ask ourselves, especially when we are at any kind of crossroad is, “What would unconditional love do?”
Being unconditional love does not mean we condone bad behavior or that we have to love those who hurt us or others. It does not mean we allow ourselves to be a doormat, walked upon by others. It does not mean we must love those who exhibit the characteristics of meanness, hatred, greed, anger, or deceit.
It does not mean we have to love our enemies, but instead should try our best to respect their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual reality, even if we cannot fathom maintaining their belief system. It means we forgive them by sending love to the situations of which they are a part that seem to break our hearts, and then let it go.
Being unconditional love means we accept that regardless of how much we know, there is information that resides outside our scope of knowing, and that our beliefs, regardless of how much we think they are accurate, can differ significantly from others. Acceptance, understanding, and tolerance is paramount.
We Have All Come To Earth With Unique Imperatives
It’s important to understand that we only have an external view. We don’t understand the difference any soul committed to make on Earth, regardless of what that commitment and purpose look like. There are souls walking the planet who came to Earth with a mission to be a “disrupter.” These disrupters can be loved by some, hated by others. They may be extremely misunderstood, and their external presentation may be very different from accepted norms.
However, it is often within tragedy that lives become closer and the love that binds people together becomes more evident. World challenges and global heartaches set up an environment of potential whereby it may become easier to fathom or understand our oneness or connection with each other.
We have no idea what the end game is for a life that, from the outside looking in, seems inhumane or horrible. We don’t know the co-created plan or the reasons people do what they do. It is imperative to understand that everyone has a limited dataset, and no individual can possibly know another’s soul contracts that were committed to, or the Earthly plan that has been co-created for any lifetime. This limited dataset includes our own selves, which is why we often can’t understand the circumstances or challenges of our lives that can be such a heavy lift.
Before we come to Earth, we select our parents and siblings, as we mutually agree to our aggregate highest good for our Earthly plan. We know our name before we are born. We make agreements with others to help them and have them help us navigate our lives to achieve those goals within our co-created plans.
Many times, people cannot accept this fact, as they are certain they would never select the parents or siblings or challenges they were handed. The sole reason for this lack of acceptance is their Earthly amnesia of this co-created plan. For free will to be successfully exercised, this amnesia is imperative. There are, however, times when amnesia takes a back seat, as with prodigies who seem to be born with lifetimes worth of gifts, but otherwise it’s a necessity.
Is Suicide Ever A Part Of The Plan?
Suicide is never in a co-created plan, but because of free will, an individual can opt for that exit strategy. Negative ramifications of suicide do not exist for a soul when it arrives back home, as it’s usually placed in a cocoon of love, kindness, and protection. Any kind of relegation to darkness or punishment because somebody ends their own life does not exist. The soul is usually in need of love and compassion to assist in the transition.
It’s important to acknowledge, however, that suicide does not remove the grief or suffering of the soul. Suicide provides a nonphysical, loving, and safe environment to continue the inside work to resolve whatever issues plagued the individual — but the escape that people may perceive does not exist. Mental, emotional, and spiritual dysfunctions or challenges need to be healed one way or another, on either side of the veil.
With death, once again, we gain access to our complete dataset, and our souls continue to exist in infinitum on the other side, reunited with the ultimate consciousness of love and all the elements of our soul’s existence from the past, present, and future. Aspects of our personality are therefore preserved.
Many think when they die, they’ll float as an entity who no longer has to work on healing the mental, emotional, and spiritual issues that may have plagued them and that their new, nonhuman existence will be perfect. Not true. We continue to work on any issue or baggage we’ve taken with us, and we continue to develop a higher vibration of love. If someone is a jerk, their jerk personality remains, and they will need to work on whatever can make them vibrate to a higher frequency of love, minimizing and losing the jerk tendencies when they die.
The only thing we completely shed is any physical pain associated with being human — disease, suffering, soreness, chromosomal nondisjunction, and so on. Suffice it to say, upon death, our wholeness of spirit understands our complete existence with all the data and information that resided outside our awareness on Earth.
Missing the entire dataset, we often misunderstand or are confused by the tragedies of life because they make no sense to us. If we understand that we are unconditional love, we will look at situations differently, and accept that the only person we can control is ourselves. Loving ourselves is paramount to loving anyone or anything else.
Reprinted with permission from Transitions of Hope: Using the Power of the Mind to Replace Fear With Love To Navigate Life’s Challenges by Maryann Roefaro (2025, Waterside Publishing)
A retired healthcare CEO with over 35 years of executive leadership experience, Maryann Roefaro is a highly intuitive spiritual mentor and leader. In addition, she is a certified Reiki Master Teacher and Heart Centered Hypnotherapist with over 20 years of private practice helping others heal themselves.
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